Calming and Peaceful Insights for Stressed Nurses and Caregivers

Confessions of a recovering Stress-a-holic

I'm glad you stopped by to visit my blog. You are in for a calming relaxed experience. You will read ideas and get tools to reduce your stress and overwhem.

But first a little bit of history, of course like you I was not always relaxed. In fact you could call me a recovering stress-a-holic. I had a victim mentality and seldom took responsibility for my own misery.

After three marriages and three divorces, one of those marriages to a paranoid schizophrenic, having two live child births and two miscarriages, dealing with the horrors of a blood relative's attempted suicide, and moving across the country five times in ten years, I have a few life experiences to say I have been there done that. I'm not going to go further into my history, enough is enough. I'm here to give you life experience credentials and my redeeming fact that I have survived without the use or need of prescriptions ,over the counter medications. or alcohol. I have used natural methods and herbs which I will teach you about, to pull myself out of the slavery of stress and depression.

You see, when I needed someone to talk to, someone to trust, someone that could empathize with me, there was no one. That is not going to happen to you.

I'm here to tell  you there is hope, strength, and assistance to get through what you are coping with right now.

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Meditation- A No Cost Solution to Your Health Care.

Meditation has been found to be one of the most successful ways to relax, get calm and clear your mind and thinking. There are different ways to meditate, from sitting still and focusing on your breathing, to walking around your neighborhood and enjoying  nature.

Meditation is specifically, purposefully focusing and clearing or emptying your mind of all thoughts. This may seem very difficult at first but once you realize you can control your thoughts not your thoughts controlling you, you understand how powerful and empowering this technique really is. This is extremely easy as well.

This technique has been around for over 3000 plus years.But only until recently has it been perceived as being difficult or unusual because we tend to disregard ideas that were once used as spiritual in nature, and our lifestyles seem to suggest being spiritual as not cool or sophisticated.

Over the last 40 years or so it has become more widely accepted and used because of the fact that mediation has been associated with illness relief, pain control and it has extensive relaxation benefits. The results of meditation have brought it into recognition besides its use by any age or health condition and of course it is free.

One very good way to accelerate relaxation through meditation is with the use of listening to music.

Choosing mostly classical music, instrumental pieces, or soft jazz quiets the thoughts. You can listen to music on a CD or a nature scene on a DVD with music. A lot of the recording studios are sending out CD's and DVD's labeled as relaxation or calming, this makes finding music very easy. The benefit is of course increased and enhanced relaxation with focused mediation. Perfect multitasking activity.

Along with the listening to music while you are meditating, you can visualize emptying your mind. The conscious focusing and clearing puts the whole body in a calm state.

Being in a calm state, healing, health and well being is recreated.

Opinions of Others- Calming Capsule 10- You Have Choices

It is alright for people to express their opinions, but you don’t have to attend every argument your invited to. Try not to fuel someone’s argument and fire. Your choice is not to stress and participate. You can be silent and detach, you then do not get sucked into the negative energy and stress of some one else. This may take a little practice, but it is worth it!

Boundries- self made stress or calm resourses

Many of us have to impose boundaries in our work and in our relationships. Boundaries are guide lines by which you proceed in your communications or in your actions. How far can you or should you go to within a relationship before you step into someone else's space. A space that may be physical or imagined.You need to look at the reasons for the actions, are they self serving? Which is a major intuition into some one's space.Or is it an honest empathic action to impress a "I understand" were you are idea. there is a fine line, are you helping or hurting are you creating a victim or empowering some one?

The choice is your's, you know yourself best. Once the choice is made and if it is positive then you are feeling good and feeling relaxed. You are in a win-win situation, empowering others as well as yourself. You cannot feel good and feel stressed at the same time.

Pets know alot about being calm

The other day I came home from work. Tired and stressed from the long drive home. My cat greeted me at the door as usual. And as usual she was very vocal in her expression of wanting to be fed, or so I thought. Instead of dishing out her food and going about my after work activities, I picked her up and held her, petted her and gave her love and attention. Well, duh, I felt so much better and she stopped her vocals. She just purred and loved the connection we had. I found myself stress removed and very calm and relaxed.

Pets, if you let them, have an insight into your emotional well being. Take the time to connect with your pet. You will find both your pet and yourself feel so much better.

Oh, by the way, yes, I fed my cat. In fact I shared some of my chicken with her a bit later.

Spring cleaning change your thoughts as well as your environment

It will be officially spring in a few days, the thoughts of spring cleaning and reorganizing for warmer weather is apparent.

When I way young and living in the north east, during spring cleaning time my mom and I would change the curtains and draperies all over the house, and even move some furniture around. My dad know that a few Saturday’s would be taken up with redecorating, and being good natured would laugh about how change was good. He was glad to see my mom happy and creative.

During your spring cleaning time consider while you are changing curtains, linens or cleaning out the closets, the changing of your thoughts and perspective of why you are stressed. Consider changing from a reacting person to the calmer responsive person you are by nature. We all were not born stressed and overwhelmed, we absorbed it and learned it.

So take time to spring clean your mind and start eating a bit healthier to relax the total you.

Stressed: What are you Covering Up??

There are many times when we are hurrying to get things done because we have ‘double booked’ ourselves. We get stressed because we find ourselves in a time crunch. These are also the times when we do not ask for help.

What is our reasons for not asking?

Do you think no one but you can do the task ‘right’? Have you organized the task in such a way that extra hands could mess it up?

You can see that these reasons ‘cover up’ your desire to be in control. Some flexibility on your part could decrease your stress level a lot!

Also this gives some one else a chance to be creative or perhaps even learn something new.

Sometimes you may wait until the last minute to finish a task or project, then you rush through the process. People will do this then they have limited knowledge of a project. Covering up the fact they don’t know what they are doing.

A bit of planning and perhaps honesty in the beginning would have eliminated the stress altogether for you and for others. Take this last incident and learn from it and resolve to more forward. Not getting yourself in that situation again. Only take on projects you are confident to finish on time. If you are one who wants to have to ‘completive edge’ then you better darn well get education and research before your even consider a challenging project. Calm, relaxed confidence will get your further then stressed overwhelm and excuses.

Stress as an Indentity, a type of Identity theft , you steal from yourself.

How do your define you, what words do you use?

Have you caught your self identifying with Stress?

Have you said” I’m stressed“. Or “I can’t deal with all this Stress”. Or “Look what stress is doing to me”!!

Are you really going to list “stressed” as a characteristic on your résumé?

When you look at the definition of stress you will see that it means pressure or force. A very appropriate definition of our lifestyles. But please also note that when engineers do stress tests on buildings they are looking for weak points. Areas that do not meet the code standards for good construction. So my friend stress can also mean VULNERABLIITY. WOW, now there is a concept. Scary isn’t it!

A very promising way to motivate yourself to stop allowing stress to control you is to REPLACE the word stress with vulnerable in your conversations and your thinking. You want to stay strong and healthy so lets learn to get calm and relaxed. There is empowerment in that.

Has Stress Taken Intimacy Out of your Life?

Sex was thought to be a great stress reliever. Increasing our endorphins’ and helping to relieve minor aches and pains, too. Our 21^st century stress us very difficult to relieve quickly and much more complex then every twenty five years ago. Even a 21 year old male will have some performance issues from time to time. So, with that in mind consider the 30 year old couple, just finding the time and energy for intimacy. This can be a chore and spontaneity is a lost luxury.

How do you increase your intimacy and enjoy sex more while decreasing your stress levels?

Remember to get into the stress conditions you are now in, took quite some time. You can’t expect instant reversal.

Like any good habit stress-free sex or calm sex takes some effort. The great side is it is a lot of fun.

Remember what foreplay was? Yes, dust off the ideas from the back of your brain and think.

Communicate with your partner/spouse in advance. The planning phase is fun in itself. Plan to send sexy suggestive text messages- create code words and nick names for each other as well. (I’m not going into phone sex here! Perhaps in an other article. ) Leave notes for each other around the house as well. This subtle verbal foreplay sparks the imagination and arouses the senses, too.

By thinking with the attitude of a 20 year old couple the 30 or 40 or even 50 year old couples will focus on pleasure and not on the every day stresses.

Keep your words and ideas relaxed and calming. You will find that after some calm relaxed intimate encounters with your spouse/ partner you’ll find your stress levels decrease considerably.

The calming habit will grow, you will find that his performance will be better and sustained. While your response time and intensity will be quicker and stronger.

Just finished mixing up some aromatherapy oils and body butters for a report and class that I'm teaching. My report will be sent out to all.

one must understand stress never takes a holiday or a day off. stress is the origin of most diseases and emotional problems. calm is easy!!!